Premature Ejaculation and the art of lasting longer

For a majority of men, the real joy of sex lies between the moment of penetration and ejaculation. It is, however, very unfair to consider this phase of penetration and ejaculation as the main portion of sexual activity. The importance of foreplay cannot be sidelined if we view the sex from a woman’s perspective. However, for most men the penetration and finally ejaculation is the end all and be all of hot sex. Just ask any man what is one thing that he wants to last longer and longer during sex, then in all probability his answer will be to increase the time between these two stages of penetration and ejaculation. Even the so called studs who claim to stay erect for more time than anybody else, also has a secret desire to last few minutes more. The problem starts when a man finds that he is not enjoying sex fully and the time between his two most preferred phases of penetration and ejaculation has become very short. Truly there is nothing more depressing and disappointing for a man than to face his unsatisfied partner after a quick ejaculation.

We need to understand a few things very clearly on this subject. First of all the variation in the time between penetration and ejaculation - and premature ejaculation itself - is common and normal. However, when the time before ejaculation is really short at every attempt of intercourse, the cause of the early ejaculation may be neurobiological, medical and/or psychological. This situation can be ideally defined as a case of premature ejaculation.

Since the time and moment of ejaculation in all men varies, it is not possible to specify an ideal time for ejaculation for everybody. In this context it would be appropriate to distinguish between premature ejaculation as a normal complaint of men and Premature Ejaculation as a syndrome that needs urgent treatment.

If we see that there is a normal variation of time in ejaculation of a man and he only occasionally come too soon then it can be considered as a natural variable premature ejaculation. Such normal occasions of premature ejaculation are quite common and almost all men experience this at some point of time in their life. There are many factors responsible for such moments of premature ejaculation which affect duration of the excitement phase of sexual intercourse. Some of these factors include age of the sexual participants, newness of the sexual partner or situation, and how often the man has had sex in the recent past. Premature Ejaculation in such cases does not require any treatment and the man regain his staying power on his own.

However, there are many cases where Premature Ejaculation becomes a syndrome. It happens in those men where early ejaculation is present from the first sexual encounter and occurs every time they have sex, and maybe very soon after penetration. Such cases of premature ejaculation are diagnosed as the cases of lifelong premature ejaculation. These types of cases needs systematic and regular treatment to overcome the premature ejaculation. Since in these cases also, the main cause is psychological and there is no apparent physical cause, they can be cured with almost hundred percent success rate.

Apart from the above mentioned two ‘normal’ and ‘lifelong’ cases of premature ejaculation, there are men who say that they have premature ejaculation but who ejaculate after a reasonable time, for example perhaps 5 to 10 minutes after penetration. Surely men who last ten minutes in bed are perfectly normal and cannot be said to have any kind of premature or early ejaculation. However, even if such men complain of an early ejaculation then their problem is actually a psychological problem than a real one, and probably need counseling, and education about what is normal during sex.

In fact the art of lasting longer lies in identifying the nature of our ejaculation – normal or premature , and to take proper steps to cure it. Curing premature ejaculation is very much possible and often a little practice of some techniques is enough to treat it fully.

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